My best friend is constantly ranting to me about her troubles with this boy that she has been seeing (on/off) for almost a year now and it's getting a little repetitive. It always begins with her crying to me about how he's such a jerk because he didn't do something she wanted him to do or he didn't respond the way she expected him to.
I then comfort her and spit out the honest truth about how he is a total jerk and that she needs to swallow her feelings and think with her head.
Then, for a slight moment, she nods in agreement and promises to cut relations and contacts with him.
My best friend then cuts any form of communication with him but then reconnects with him in about a week and the cycle starts all over again. I'm sure you get the picture and know exactly what's happening.
So then she's caught in this never ending cycle of happiness/unhappiness. My comments to her get more and more bitter but the same thing happens again. I know that she is totally in love with this guy, and yeah sure, all the bollywood songs claim that you need to follow your heart, but in all honesty, what does your heart know? There are times in your life where you need to make decisions with your brain and figure out what is right and what is wrong despite what your heart is telling you. You may agree or disagree with this observation, and that's fine because ultimately, I'm in slight disagreement with this observation, too.
I realized that despite what I'm saying to my friend, her decision to go back is not exactly dumb, because we all do it. Even I am a hypocrite and go against my own will and fall into the cycle, too.
Have you ever been caught in the cycle of happiness/unhappiness? If you were, how did you get out? Also, how do you deal with a friend who asks you for advice and ignores it?
Friday, January 22, 2010
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Since when do social networking sites determine whether you're friends with someone in real life or not?
Since when do social networking sites determine whether you're friends with someone in real life or not?
Scenario: You and a friend get into a arguement of some sort. You sign on to Myspace/Facebook and you notice they're no longer on your friends list.
Is that supposed to be the final straw? Is that what ulitmately determines the status of a friendship? Oh wow, we're not friends on Myspace! That must mean we're not friends in real life! That is DEFINITELY the end of our friendship, right there!
Seriously, though. Is that the way of telling everyone online you're no longer friends with a person? If they're not on my friends list, then they're not my friend!
Is that supposed to be offensive? Does anyone truely get offended by that? Is that supposed to make me go cry in a corner? Because it won't. I probably won't even notice to tell you the truth. And if I do notice, I won't care. I'll probably just giggle to myself and say "Oh wow, I guess we're really not friends now!"
Now, I suppose I can understand this if the person is bothering you. I'd defriend and block, too. But if the person isn't saying anything to me, they can come to my site every single day for the rest of their lives if they want to. I don't care.
I don't know. I just think people should stop basing their friendships off of whether or not you're friends with someone on a networking site. What happend to the good ol days when you just simply said (or some variation of) "We're not friends anymore"? Instead of making it official - without saying a word - by defriending them on some site.
Seriously, let's get real people. Networking sites aren't everything. And for that matter, the internet isn't everything, either.
Scenario: You and a friend get into a arguement of some sort. You sign on to Myspace/Facebook and you notice they're no longer on your friends list.
Is that supposed to be the final straw? Is that what ulitmately determines the status of a friendship? Oh wow, we're not friends on Myspace! That must mean we're not friends in real life! That is DEFINITELY the end of our friendship, right there!
Seriously, though. Is that the way of telling everyone online you're no longer friends with a person? If they're not on my friends list, then they're not my friend!
Is that supposed to be offensive? Does anyone truely get offended by that? Is that supposed to make me go cry in a corner? Because it won't. I probably won't even notice to tell you the truth. And if I do notice, I won't care. I'll probably just giggle to myself and say "Oh wow, I guess we're really not friends now!"
Now, I suppose I can understand this if the person is bothering you. I'd defriend and block, too. But if the person isn't saying anything to me, they can come to my site every single day for the rest of their lives if they want to. I don't care.
I don't know. I just think people should stop basing their friendships off of whether or not you're friends with someone on a networking site. What happend to the good ol days when you just simply said (or some variation of) "We're not friends anymore"? Instead of making it official - without saying a word - by defriending them on some site.
Seriously, let's get real people. Networking sites aren't everything. And for that matter, the internet isn't everything, either.
Monday, January 18, 2010
Picture perfect
Friday, January 15, 2010
To the special one...
He likes it when I fall asleep on him. He kisses me while I sleep . “Hey” he says, and he moves away only so that he can pull me closer, in a way that allows me to lay my head on his chest.
Listening to his heartbeat makes me feel safe. For the first time in my life I don’t feel alone. His skin is darker than mine, and softer. The colors look beautiful together. They match.
And then he breathes faster, Starts kissing ma nose…and his fingers are lost in my hair, and the silence is the most comfortable and forgiving I've ever felt… and then he says he loves me. And he means it.
I’m shocked every time. He professes his love, and I laugh. I laugh because there is no other way to express the pure happiness I feel, and I feel it because he is my soul mate. I tell a joke about some thing silly and now it's his turn to laugh. He laughs at me, not at the joke: "That joke was terrible. I just have to laugh because you think it's funny. It's sweet to me."
Then we're back. He tells me about his day, and asks me about mine. "I love how you just can't shut up," he says with that beautiful smile.
It should be beautiful…..It is…
Listening to his heartbeat makes me feel safe. For the first time in my life I don’t feel alone. His skin is darker than mine, and softer. The colors look beautiful together. They match.
And then he breathes faster, Starts kissing ma nose…and his fingers are lost in my hair, and the silence is the most comfortable and forgiving I've ever felt… and then he says he loves me. And he means it.
I’m shocked every time. He professes his love, and I laugh. I laugh because there is no other way to express the pure happiness I feel, and I feel it because he is my soul mate. I tell a joke about some thing silly and now it's his turn to laugh. He laughs at me, not at the joke: "That joke was terrible. I just have to laugh because you think it's funny. It's sweet to me."
Then we're back. He tells me about his day, and asks me about mine. "I love how you just can't shut up," he says with that beautiful smile.
It should be beautiful…..It is…
Typecasted
Girls have been generally typecasted as the "weaker sex", something I would beg to differ. This is a barbaric, ludacris, and illogical way of thinking. I think that for the past centuries, the strength and uniqueness of women have been proven and should no longer be an issue, if only the society will be more open. But anyway, I won't go into that too much. What I want to talk about are women drivers.
I drive every single day of my life and I can say that I'm an average driver. Some say "for a girl, I'm a pretty good driver". And even if I should be flattered, I can't help but be annoyed. What does she/he mean by "for a girl"? I mean, that just pisses me off because it shows how skills of women on the road are belittled. What's worse than that is when I hear people who get bugged and say such things as "women drivers" and then grunt. What the fudge?!
Another thing--on stop lights, I do several retouches (a little gloss, a little fluffing of the hair) and I would receive staring of a lifetime! Is there something wrong with that? It's my ride and I can do anything, right?
What do you think? Am I the only one who's driven crazy with this or are you? Have you any experiences about being prejudiced as women drivers?
I drive every single day of my life and I can say that I'm an average driver. Some say "for a girl, I'm a pretty good driver". And even if I should be flattered, I can't help but be annoyed. What does she/he mean by "for a girl"? I mean, that just pisses me off because it shows how skills of women on the road are belittled. What's worse than that is when I hear people who get bugged and say such things as "women drivers" and then grunt. What the fudge?!
Another thing--on stop lights, I do several retouches (a little gloss, a little fluffing of the hair) and I would receive staring of a lifetime! Is there something wrong with that? It's my ride and I can do anything, right?
What do you think? Am I the only one who's driven crazy with this or are you? Have you any experiences about being prejudiced as women drivers?
What is perfection to you?
A while ago, I had this conversation with someone. She had said that she "wanted everything to be perfect". Well yeah, she's a perfectionist. Now, this got me thinking: what is life without imperfection? I know it seems rather far-fetched, but yeah. I'm not much of a perfectionist, after all.
Imagine a perfect world. There would be no sorrow, or no pain. Everyone would be happy, and, well, perfect. But then, what would be so fun about that? Happiness wouldn't be worth much anymore. Life would just keep going on, and in a dull matter, too. If there is no pain, how do we learn? How do we move on? What would be the point of life? Besides, every day would seem so mindless, since everything we do is flawless; there are no such things as mistakes.
I remember this lesson we had in school: the Holocaust. Hitler's idea about the "perfect society" is ridiculous. Our society may have a lot of concerns, but it is perfect in its own way. We are all unique, as we have all heard over and over again. Now, I'm sure it would be boring if we all looked alike and acted alike. It would be enough to drive anyone crazy!
Once, I saw this quote that said, "Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It simply means that you have learned to see past the imperfections." I couldn't agree more. I mean, if you're only going to be happy when everything is "perfect", then you'll never be truly satisfied!
Perfection for me is simple: it's being truly happy and being able to do what I want to do. It's just enjoying everything that comes my way. Let's be honest, sometimes I can be quite a pessimist. But hey, life is there for me to enjoy, and it won't be there forever.
Well, that's my opinion; you don't have to necessarily agree, of course. But let me ask you a question: What is perfection to you?
Imagine a perfect world. There would be no sorrow, or no pain. Everyone would be happy, and, well, perfect. But then, what would be so fun about that? Happiness wouldn't be worth much anymore. Life would just keep going on, and in a dull matter, too. If there is no pain, how do we learn? How do we move on? What would be the point of life? Besides, every day would seem so mindless, since everything we do is flawless; there are no such things as mistakes.
I remember this lesson we had in school: the Holocaust. Hitler's idea about the "perfect society" is ridiculous. Our society may have a lot of concerns, but it is perfect in its own way. We are all unique, as we have all heard over and over again. Now, I'm sure it would be boring if we all looked alike and acted alike. It would be enough to drive anyone crazy!
Once, I saw this quote that said, "Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It simply means that you have learned to see past the imperfections." I couldn't agree more. I mean, if you're only going to be happy when everything is "perfect", then you'll never be truly satisfied!
Perfection for me is simple: it's being truly happy and being able to do what I want to do. It's just enjoying everything that comes my way. Let's be honest, sometimes I can be quite a pessimist. But hey, life is there for me to enjoy, and it won't be there forever.
Well, that's my opinion; you don't have to necessarily agree, of course. But let me ask you a question: What is perfection to you?
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Time to go home.......sign reliefffffff
Its already 6....time to go home...What a nice evening...Feel like going on a longgggggggg ride....Not in ma bike...its pretty old eh...
Next week il be getting ma new vehicle...:) ma new activa...yeeeeeeeeeeeeeee....
I wil love it...
Alright....gotta go.....
Byeeee.....
Next week il be getting ma new vehicle...:) ma new activa...yeeeeeeeeeeeeeee....
I wil love it...
Alright....gotta go.....
Byeeee.....
Monday, January 11, 2010
Life...how boring it can get, at times..
Hello everyone..
Actually i am not in a very good mindset as i sometimes think how boring and monotonous life could get at times..
I mean,come on..u get up,go to work,come back,dinner and sleep....
this get routine...
i really wanna do somethin fun...somethin new....somethin exitin...
My friend suggested me to jot dwn the things i love doing and i start doing them......Not a bad idea at all....
Do u have any ideas..? just to make each day more eventful......
Keep me posted....:)
Actually i am not in a very good mindset as i sometimes think how boring and monotonous life could get at times..
I mean,come on..u get up,go to work,come back,dinner and sleep....
this get routine...
i really wanna do somethin fun...somethin new....somethin exitin...
My friend suggested me to jot dwn the things i love doing and i start doing them......Not a bad idea at all....
Do u have any ideas..? just to make each day more eventful......
Keep me posted....:)
Monday, January 4, 2010
My experiment wid first blog
Hello people...my first blog...I wanted to do this from a long time nw...This is one among ma new year resolutions....:)
Hope to see you nice people around...
Cheers
Hope to see you nice people around...
Cheers
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